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June 3, 2012

patrickandmarcus: As a man, I have no problem with women generalizing ...

discosherpa:

paleotrees:

patrickandmarcus:

As a man, I have no problem with women generalizing men as rapists, misogynists, yada yada. Because I’ve seen men do some vile shit and had to stop even viler shit from happening. This is from the 3rd grade to now. Waayyy out of line touching, sick name-calling, physical abuse, all dat shit. I see looks in men’s eyes that make me uncomfortable, so imagine how a woman who couldn’t properly defend herself from a man is feeling. Again, this is shit I’ve seen at the age of nineand I still see it. Very disturbing. And I’m not talking about strangers. I know [dudes] in my family, young and old, that exhibit some scary behavior towards females. I do not fuck with it.

I got three little sisters and hella younger female cousins. Anything like that happening to them takes my mind to very dark places. So I have no problem with a woman generalizing all men as rapists. You know what I call that? Self-preservation. If that is what you gotta do to ensure your safety, then do that shit to the fullest. Sadly in the wrong place and at the wrong time, that won’t be enough to protect you.

I’ll never say “But I’m not like that” or “All men ain’t like that” to a woman who is talking about her actual life experiences. What type of shit is that? I don’t have to make myself feel better about what type of man I am, because I already know. I also have seen the worst in men. I don’t like it.

Generalize the fuck outta me. Protect yourself. Because Ima tell my sisters the same thing.

Thanks, dude.

it makes me SO sad and frustrated the amount of time my non-feminist sisters spend saying, “but not all men are like that” to me and any other feminist who raises the issue of male crimes. it doesn’t even benefit them — they care so sincerely about defending the collective reputation of a group that cares so little for them and that takes every action possible not to deserve a good reputation. OPEN YOUR EYES.

I just had this damn conversation with a friend of mine the other day. For fuck’s sake if you don’t like that reputation then look at your brothers who are causing this shit. Cause unless I know you, I can’t tell the difference between a good man and a potential abuser/attacker. Contrary to popular opinion, abusers and rapists do not come with a warning sign. Trust me when I tell you that some of your friends are abusers and rapists and you have no fucking idea. I’m not choosing this. They’re making me choose this. Look at THEM.

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May 31, 2012

fuckyeahfeminists:

villa-kulla:

Reporter: I have a question to Robert and to Scarlett. Firstly to Robert, throughout Iron Man 1 and 2, Tony Stark started off as a very egotistical character but learns how to fight as a team. And so how did you approach this role, bearing in mind that kind of maturity as a human being when it comes to the Tony Stark character, and did you learn anything throughout the three movies that you made?

And to Scarlett, to get into shape for Black Widow did you have anything special to do in terms of the diet, like did you have to eat any specific food, or that sort of thing?

Scarlett: How come you get the really interesting existential question, and I get the like, “rabbit food” question?

The respect given to you if you’re a man in the entertainment business, and the respect given to you if you’re a woman in the entertainment business: all perfectly summed up in one idiotically thought out line of questioning.

Wow, reading the difference between the questions is HILARIOUS.

Did anyone else notice all the unnecessary ass shots of ScarJo throughout the movie, tho?

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Filed under: robert downey jr. scarlett johansson the avengers media press misogyny feminism sexism celebrity

May 29, 2012

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Filed under: taylor swift kanye west rihanna chris brown assault racism misogyny feminism

May 28, 2012

"Many men who harass women say their intent is to compliment them, but why do they usually not “compliment” women who are accompanied by other men and often only do it when a woman is alone? Why do they tend to object to other men “complimenting” their female significant other (if applicable), female friends, or female family members? Why do some men grow hostile and violent when women do not thank them and act flattered? Why do they feel compelled to compliment women at all? Rarely are they expecting a date. Many times they do not even wait to see a woman’s reaction as they fly by in their car or as they turn to start harassing the next woman. They are doing it to exert their power, to entertain their friends, to relieve boredom, or do demonstrate that they can evaluate a complete stranger to her face, just because she is a woman."

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Stop Street Harassment: Holly Kearl (via completelymoribund)

The thing that so many men need to understand is that women do not consider it a compliment when they are being harassed on the street. Women usually feel either embarrassed or terrified or a combination of the two. So stop fucking doing it.

(via sexytypewriter)

it’s so telling that men tend to do this when they’re in a group of other men. and i’ve never had it happen when i’m hanging out with dudes, especially not when i’m with my ginormous dad (most men don’t give a fuck about harassing me if i’m with my mom who is as small as i am). so if it isn’t sexual, or threatening, and you just want to ~make me smile~ then why can you only do it when i’m perceived as vulnerable?

(via hyper—ballad)

I would add that it rarely happens or when I am around men who know that I am dating someone at that time. Many men (certainly not all) are willing to lay off if they perceive that you are “owned” - otherwise, you’re public property, and they’re free to treat you however they like. Any competition that erupts is less to flatter the woman than to establish temporary rights to her, even if they must degrade her to do so.

(via desliz)

that or the nature of the so-called compliments will change if youre w a man. they will go from a respectful “you look beautiful this evening” when youre w a dude to some vulgar shit about your pussy, if youre alone. because youre not worthy of respect as just a woman.

(via baddominicana)

My sister got a flat tire in the freeway yesterday. She had nine cars roll down their window and yell how good she looked and how great her ass was, but not a single car stopped to help her.

Thanks for the compliments, you pieces of crap.

(via i-gloriana)

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Filed under: harassment street harassment sexual harassment misogyny sexism patriarchy feminism

May 27, 2012

grrrlvirus:

kittencreamery:

sullen-alien:

clementinecannibal:

for anyone who thinks female armpit hair is ‘no big deal’ these days, for those who question my insistence that my armpit hair on my femme body is a genderqueer expression that has been targeted for violence time and again, check out this comment on my youtube.

why is female hair so offensive? how is it any different from male hair? this shit is ridiculous.

I can’t even fathom how someone like him can use a computer.

this shit is all too painfully real.trigger warning.

when i was nineteen i went to a local show with my sister. i was dancing around and acting crazy, and i was the only grrrl doing so. i was wearing a tanktop. the singer in the band said into the mic “the girl with the red hair (me) really needs to shave her fucking armpits”. people were laughing at me. people were throwing shit at me. i was giving these people the finger and raising my arm, showing off the hair. then a guy punched me in the face, knocking my glasses off. i tried to hit him back but another guy caught my arm and restrained me. i was pushed, shoved and hit by a group of guys. my shirt was pulled down during all of this. my sister’s arms were restrained. i was dragged out on my back by my pigtails, down some stairs and my head was smashed into a pole along the way. it was fucked up and very, very traumatizing. nothing like that had ever happened to me before. after that people would pass the store i worked at in the mall and shout ‘shave your armpits!’ at me while i was working.

(via discosherpa)

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Filed under: harassment assault body hair misogyny body image sexism patriarchy feminism

May 25, 2012

iurisandthesea:

DEFY. RESIST. REVOLT. / +1
Montréal, QC / January 2012

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Filed under: feminism radical feminism resist sui

May 20, 2012

"Americans seem to be acting this way lately; we don’t love ourselves enough to value our choices without some kind of outside sanction. So we deprecate others lest they deprecate us, even by implication."

— Joanna Russ, 1973 (via discoherpa)

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Filed under: feminism joanna russ love radical feminism self

May 18, 2012

paleotrees:

killyourenemies:

keep your friends close. kill your enemies.

STILL!

(Source: therussianroulette)

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Filed under: protest feminism

May 18, 2012

We’ll probably never know how many women inventors there were. That’s because in the early years of the United States, a woman could not get a patent in her own name. A patent is considered a kind of property, and until the late 1800s laws forbade women in most states from owning property or entering into legal agreements in their own names. Instead, a woman’s property would be in the name of her father or husband.

For example, many people believe that Sybilla Masters was the first American woman inventor. In 1712 she developed a new corn mill, but was denied a patent because she was a woman. Three years later the patent was filed successfully in her husband’s name.

— FactMonster.com (via stfuconservatives)

(Source: factmonster.com, via daydreams-of-a-matriarchist)

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Filed under: feminism patriarchy women inventors

May 12, 2012

"For some reason, it is entirely OK for a strange man I don’t know to approach me in the street and tell me he’d like to violently stick his hard cock in my anus. If I turned around and say, spat on him or stabbed his eye out with a fork, this would not be OK. Moreover, if I tried to press charges, I have the stinking suspicion that without a physical assault my complaint wouldn’t be taken entirely seriously. And yet the same man gets caught taking a piss in a public place and he’s a sexual offender in the eyes of the law. ARE FERAL LANEWAYS AND BRICK WALLS MORE IMPORTANT THAN WOMEN?"

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Kat George, Things I Wish Were Not OK But Are Definitely OK (via shoshkablob)

Sometimes even with physical assault, the cops don’t take complaints seriously. Basically if a woman is making the complaint, it will not be taken seriously.

(via paleotrees)

(via indigenousfeminist)

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Filed under: sexual harassment harassment misogyny women feminism patriarchy

May 12, 2012

"Women are expected to be nice and sweet, to make other people feel comfortable. A woman who says ‘hey, I think there’s a problem here’ is being ‘negative.’ A woman who doesn’t smile while she’s being harassed is ‘humourless.’ A woman who prefers to stay focused on tasks is a ‘cold bitch.’ Significant gendering is involved here; women have an obligation to look and act a certain way and when they don’t, they need to be hassled until they do."

— Unknown (via grrl-meat)

(Source: daughterofzami, via discosherpa)

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Filed under: misogyny patriarchy feminism gender

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